Although a very small gesture, sometimes argued too small, its a positive impactful gesture nonetheless. One that is intended to strengthen the confidence and sense of safety of members of our community; fellow HUMANS. Without having to say a word, the safety pin symbolizes solidarity in the resistance of hate. Wearing a safety pin, or this very cute safety pin on a button by Mia X Marks the Spot, expresses the commitment to stand up to negativity, discrimination and prejudice, and stand by any individuals experiencing it. Make the statement that you will not tolerate the intolerant and will act as an ambassador for safety.
Today at least 50% of the worlds' population accepts that women can choose whom they'd like to marry (As opposed to be set up in an arranged marriage for example). However, among those individuals who couldn't fathom not having free will to choose their partner, many still cant seem to grasp two other considerations about women and marriage.
One being, WHEN they get married.
How old, or I should say, how young they should be married by.
And the second being, IF they even need to get married at all.
As if this is some mandatory inescapable law instead of a
t r a d i t i o n.
The curiosity of why a woman is not married "yet", seems to only increase with age
as opposed to decrease and eventually go away altogether.
Thankfully its merely the look received that insinuates the concern and rarely does anyone actually ask. Because the long "why" list might enhance their 11 lines as a result of the horror stories of l...
You know a really big ego when you see one.
I’d hate to have something in common with such a jerk, nor insinuate that you do,
but unfortunately so can each of our own personal egos be pretty
cringe worthy and unpleasant.
It may not be exhibited so bluntly and flagrantly as the “big ego” that we can so easily identify in public,
but whether you want it there or not, our own jerk ego is still very much existent.
You know, that voice in your head that second guesses decisions? That cares what people think and needs validation? It brings
up old hurtful memories and gives you reasons to worry about the future? This voice can also be blindingly protective, overly defensive,
and as mentioned earlier, rather offensive.
Yeah, that’s your "own worst critic", your very own bully and it will control and limit you with fear and dissatisfaction as long as you let it.
So, practice intellectual humility, and put that jerk in check.
To combat this unwanted, unhelpful and uninvited over-thinking adve...
The general assumptions about AGING is yet another social construct to challenge.
I’m not going to deny the gradual yet obvious symptoms of aging.
But there’s plenty of research to prove that your mindset about aging can noticeably add or subtract years to how you look and feel.
The common expectations and general beliefs about aging influence our physical and mental health. As soon as we see the semblance of some signature signs of aging, “it’s all downhill from here.” Right?
What about when the oldest person in the room has more energy than some teenagers I know, or does yoga better than the majority of regulars at my yoga class, and looks considerably younger than they “should” without any cosmetic enhancements?
This is largely because they refused to let their age sabotage their mindset.
How much is too much anger?
Seems like the answer would be, any anger is too much anger.
And that may be so, if it looks like the anger that is irrational, overbearing and full of wrath.
But how about the anger that addresses an injustice?
Well that sounds a lot like having an opinion and standing up for it.
Why then does getting angry and being confrontational as a result sometimes leave us with a sense of guilt. Like maybe we, dare I say, “overreacted” ? Even if we didn’t raise our voice and made reasonable requests?
Might it have something to do with being a woman?
Often when women react angrily, however justified, we might be considered “such a bitch” or even worse dismissed as “emotional”. But Last I checked anger is an emotion both men and women have and men don’t seem to be looked down on as out of control, and needing to “calm down” if they are similarly assertive. Instead they are considered strong, determined and confident. This isn't yet another opportunity to bash men, rath...
Skip the 2 cent 1950s 2 cents on the do’s and don’ts of loving and take a cue from the babe on the left; find many of your answers by taking a close look at yourself.
L o o k inward.
Be honest with yourself.
Learn about what has made you excel and what has limited you. Ask yourself what you can improve on, and what you should relax about. What you should embrace and what you should drop. Look for recurring themes, good and bad.
Get comfortable with your “reflection”.
Learn to recognize your personal do’s and don’ts.
Use this clarity, not just at your next date or in your relationship, but better yet, in every-single-thing you do.
I know, you’ve heard that before, ..that we can turn a failure or problem into an opportunity or stepping stone for success, just by having, well, a positive attitude.
Whereas with a negative attitude, a failure or problem can spiral into more of the same.
This positive or negative attitude thing, is largely recognized by the way you THINK about it.
But, you can also change your attitude by changing the way you ACT about it.
Yes, of course, you’ve heard that too, ..the whole - if you force yourself to smile you’ll actually feel happier or stand up straight you’ll feel more confident whereas if you grimace you feel bothered and if you slouch you’ll feel uncertain.
And yes, yes, they are related;
Having a positive attitude will probably make you smile more,
and if you smile more, you’ll have a more positive attitude.
Although this may be rather common knowledge, I’d nonetheless like to remind you to actively persuade your thoughts into a positive direction, and make...